Tell us a little about yourself.
“I’m married to my high school sweetheart, Kevin, who is an engineer/firefighter. We celebrated 16 years of marriage in June! We live in Northern California with our (currently) three children. When I am not playing chauffeur or chef, I like to pretend I can keep up with crafts and reading books that don’t have pictures.”
How long have you been a foster parent and how many kiddos have you fostered?
“We have been foster parents since September of 2010, and have had six littles since that time. Our youngest son became a forever part of our family when his adoption was finalized in November of 2012.”
What made you want to become a foster mom?
“BFC (before foster care) our family plan was always that I would return to work when our youngest child was in school full time. When that time neared, we had close friends who had an immediate need for childcare while they had to leave town unexpectedly. Because I was still at home full time, we were able to help with that need. That opened our eyes to being in a place where God could use my staying at home as a possible way to bless others. Several months after that, another friend mentioned foster care to us, and well as they say, the rest is history.”
What’s the biggest challenge you face as a mama of fosters?
“The biggest challenge I face as a foster mama is learning to parent from scratch with each new Little. We’ve brought home 4 babies straight from the hospital, but even though they were all newborns, each one brought a whole new set of exposures and I had to learn how to be the mama that baby needed, which was vastly different than the mama the previous baby needed.”
What’s the most rewarding part of being a foster mama?
“Oh, by far the Littles. It’s the gummy smiles that you know are for real; the way a chubby little hand reaches for yours through the slats of the crib because he needed to know you were right there to feel safe; the sight of our Big kids learning to comfort their foster siblings and doing it with grace and patience I didn’t know they had. People say how lucky our Littles are. It’s we who are the lucky ones!”
What’s your best piece of advice for new foster parents?
“Get connected! Find yourself a community of people who support your family. Learn to accept help when it is offered. There is a new normal now. Your life will look different that what you’re used to… because it is different. Embrace that. Lean in, and learn to give yourself grace.”