Guest Post by Brian Herzog, father of Dropping Anchors Mama Stephanie Hagen
It is definitely a mixed bag of emotions to watch your child enter into foster parenting. There’s the incredible pride to know your adult child is doing something that really matters and makes a difference. That they are giving their life and unconditional love to littles who really need it. Children who may have had experiences even as infants that no one should have to experience regardless of age.
That brings the “mixed” part of the proverbial bag; the suffering these little ones have endured; the trauma that will impact their precious lives, emotionally, psychologically, socially, physically, maybe forever; the overwhelming sense of the pain these children are living. Those things bring fear and sadness to me as a foster grandparent. Fear that my child will be hurt emotionally, psychologically, or physically by total immersion into loving and serving the children. Sadness for the “hard” that is sometimes every day.
The pendulum then swings back the other way as my child becomes something unexpectedly brilliant. A force of unconditional love that flows in a beautiful, powerful, healing way that I thought impossible. Someone who more than rises to the occasion. That is overwhelming in a beautiful way. It inspires hope for hurting children. A gratefulness that there are those who have the unbelievable capacity to do this work.
I am so thankful and honored to get to occasionally, if only for a very short time, be “Papa” to sweet little ones that are being loved so wonderfully by one that I love.
Brian has been in full-time church ministry for the past thirty-four years. He has served in churches in Missouri and Illinois in positions as Youth Pastor, Worship Pastor, Associate Pastor, and is currently serving at Potter’s House Church as Creative and Technical Director. Brian recently went back to college and received a second degree in Music Therapy and is a Board Certified Music Therapist, Neurological Music Therapist, and works with clients both in private and group sessions.